Alisa: iâ€™m so afraid Iâ€™ll be triggered during sex so I often go months without being able to have sex because my PTSD is shitty and. After which Iâ€™ll declare to you personally we are never having sex again that I think. Do you feel afraid or frustrated so itâ€™s true?
Charlie: i usually reassure you that its incorrect it to not be true because iâ€™ve known. Now it is a fact that on event, possibly after a failed effort to begin one thing or simply a really long stretch of the time, i will feel a little frustrated. But because you may feel guilty or depressed that things arenâ€™t changing while I may feel this, I know that as the survivor, this experience can be extremely more anxiety-ridden and hurtful for you. And then all of it comes back to understanding that it is critical that you donâ€™t feel broken or ashamed or weak that you need my support. As you arenâ€™t. This is simply not one thing you asked for, it really is a weight which was forced that you have to grapple with upon you and.
Guidance for other lovers in a relationship with a survivor with PTSD:
Alisa: Now being in an intimate relationship beside me for 3+ years just what can you inform more youthful Charlie as to what you may anticipate in being in a relationship beside me within my recovery process?